Life Coaching and Career Coaching

Today, many people find their lives thrown into chaos when they loss of their jobs. The loss is more than a stream of income, it is a threat to their self identity. For most people, their job defines who they are. Is this you?

Losing your job is like graduating high school and waiting to hear about going on to college, applying to the military and waiting to be accepted, or looking for that first job all over again. You were somebody in high school and now you are nobody, or so you think. But are you?

You are the only one who knows what you are worth to yourself. Other only see you for what you might be worth to them.

As a freelancer most of my life, I have been employed and unemployed many times. It happens every time a contract expires and new one has not yet come through. I have learned to use these times to step back, evaluate what I accomplished, and reassess my goals.

I also use it to assess my environment. I see this as an opportunity to take charge of my fate. I ask myself: Where is market for my skills and interests going? Is it time to change my employment strategy? And in this process, I have made a personal discovery I want to share with you.

I am the sole/soul proprietor of my life. My life is the time God has allocated to me in this world. It is a gift card with an undisclosed time limit. I own it and I can sell it. I sell part of it every time I take a job, form a relationship, or use it for myself.

How much is my time worth? It is worth what I need to accomplish what I want to accomplish in my time/life.

Too often, especially these days, we don’t have the time to reflect on where we are going or where we have been. It is like being caught in the wrong lane on the freeway at rush hour. Sometimes we miss our exit and when we finally get off we are lost, just like Tom Hanks in Bonfire of the Vanities

God gave me the freewill to be the sole proprietor of my soul. It is my responsibility to make the best of it.Taking the time to know what I want to accomplish, and what I have accomplished, has been a critical step in my life’s journey.

Janus says

If unemployment depression is setting in, I suggest that you find a mentor, or a life coach, at this time. Don’t be afraid or ashamed to ask for direction. He or she can help you find direction to bring you back to the life path to take you on the journey toward your goal.

Januslifecoaching.com is one such service you can turn to for help.

Have you ever had an epiphany?

Here is a simple story about Henry. Henry had one.

Henry is a simple man. He has a good paying job, a nice home, stable marriage and friends. He is in good health. Henry has no opinions of his own, only what the media and others tell him.  He does as he is told.

Henry is an ordinary man who worries about money, his job, the economy. He worries about his marriage and what people think about him. He worries about his health, his age, his lack of energy. He has unrealized dreams.

“I just don’t have that old spark.” He tells himself.

One day this past Spring, Henry’s wife said. “Henry, Time to mow the lawn.” So Henry went to his shed and got the lawn mower out. Since this would be the season’s first cutting, he decided to check out the mower.

He checked the gas tank. It was nearly empty. Retrieving the gas can, he filled the gas tank and replaced the gas cap tightly.  He pushed the primer button several times and then pulled the crank cord.

Nothing!   He pulled again.  Nothing!  Again, and Nothing!

“Better prime it again,” Henry said.

He pushed the primer several more times. Then he pulled hard on the crank cord. The engine coughed, puffed a cloud of blue smoke, then it died.

“Blue smoke!“

Henry tried again but to no avail.

“Better check the oil.”

He opened the oil cap, pulled out the dip stick, and wiped it. He put it back in, then withdrew it. The stick showed full. The oil was clear. He put the stick back tightening the cap.

“Huh! “He thought. “Gas — Ok!  Oil — Ok! What else could it be? “

He tried to start the engine again, still nothing.

“The engine isn’t catching.” “Spark plug!?” He had had this problem before.

Henry went back to the shed and returned with a spark plug wrench. He disconnected the spark plug cap and with the wrench, he pulled the old spark plug and inspected it. The tip was black with carbon.

“Ah! This must be the problem.”

He took a rag. Put some gasoline on it and wiped the spark plug and cleaned the points. Smiling to himself, he reinstalled the plug, reconnected it. Priming the engine again — he gave the crank rope a hard jerk

Cough, cough, Nothing!

Now Henry was getting very frustrated and angry. He had had this mower for 10 years. He did all the things people told him to do to keep it running. He fed it gas, he change the oil when needed, and he cleaned the spark plug. These had always worked, just like they told him.

“I don’t need this,” “I don’t need this.” He felt totally defeated.

He began to worry, “Will I have to buy a new mower? Or may be I have to spend a small fortune to a small engine repair service — if I can find one?  He looked at the old machine once more.

Henry called his wife to come out and look at the mower. He was afraid she wouldn’t believe him when he said the mower wouldn’t work.

She walked around the old machine and noticed a panel cover attached by screw. “What’s this for,” she asked.

Henery had not “seen” or noticed it before. He got a screw driver and unscrewed it. The cover folded down and revealed a metal screen sealed with a blue rubber gasket around the edge. He removed the screen and inspected it. On the back was accordion folded paper filter. A layer of dirt, grim, flecks of grass and leaves bonded by oil, and water, had collected on the surface. It was thickly layered in between the paper folds.

Suddenly, he knew what to do!

“It can’t breathe!”

Taking the screw driver Henry cleaned out each fold. Thick mats of crud fell out as he passed the screw drive down the fold. After removing the crud, Henry reinstalled the old filter.

Henry tightened the screw on the cover. He primed the engine, and pulled the crank rope.

BANG, POP, a cloud of blue smoke, putt, putt putt, putt putt putt, ROAR. PurrrrrRRRRRRR.

The engine jumped to life. As he pushed the machine around the yard, he smiled.

“I’ll have to buy a new one when I finish,” he thought. Henry had had an epiphany.

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What is an epiphany?

It is “A sudden, intuitive perception of or insight into the reality or essential meaning of something, usually initiated by some simple, homely, or commonplace occurrence or experience.”

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Reflecting on his discovery, Henry realized that his spirit, was like the mower’s air filter. It was clogged with the crud of his accumulated worries, doubts and other people’s opinions.  Henry determined to clean his spiritual filter so that he could start living and breathing again.

Have you had an epiphany? Would you recognize one if it happened?

Janus says

Sometime it takes a comment or observation from someone else to trigger the revelation, insight or epiphany in you. This is what a life coach can do for you.

Give it a thought.

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